How to develop trust in friendship Life is nothing without friendship
Do you think you have been successful in developing trust in
friendship?
Some of you might affirm positively, and would probably agree with what
I personally think that trust can never be build overnight.
Developing trust in friendship sometimes takes longer than you can
imagine, as it involves the combination of many subtle mental processes,
and gross social experiences.
A friendship, whether online or offline is where two
people share,
unite, and enjoy being with each other. It is a state where the
concerned persons are at total peace with each other and feel like being
in their comfort zones.
Your friend almost becomes like a
family member,
and slowly you begin trusting the relationship and develop sincere
feelings for the person. Friends become part of your life and when they
are away, you miss them, their chats, talks, the closeness, sharing, and
the enjoyable feelings you have when they are around.
Developing trust in friendship needs loyalty, sincerity, honesty, and
respect, where trust is one of the sole foundation to make the
relationship last. You need to be open with the people you trust, and
share things openly with them. It can be done by doing
simple things like sharing a
glass of wine, chats over the phone, regular beer, walk down the path, just being together, or whatever works for you.
“The glory of friendship is not the outstretched
hand, nor the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it’s the
spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he discovers that someone
else believes in him and is willing to trust him with his friend.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson.
A true and trusted friend will not steal your ideas, hurt or alienate
you, deceive you, neglect you, find faults with you, exploit your
contacts, or make life harder for you. Instead, they want to see you
bloom and flourish, see your life, your work, and your relationships
turn out to be more fruitful. Thus, you allow these trusted friends into
your lives, give them space to speak the truth, even if at times it
hurts, because the wounds of a friend can be trusted.
Some things you can do for developing trust in friendship
1. Be Honest Always
Always tell the truth, no matter what it may cost you. When your
friend commits a mistake, be bold and yet gentle to rebuke or confront
them. Let your friend know that you do not hate the person, instead hate
the deed they did. Your friend will trust you more, because you are not
afraid to tell the truth and are a trustworthy person.
2. Don't leak the secrets
While developing trust in friendship, it is important that you keep
your friends secrets and not share it with others. If something has been
told and shared only with you, as a true friend, you should not lose
the trust that is hard to regain later. Instead, by keeping your
friend’s secret, you are keeping your promise and you allow them to
trust and share things with you.
3. Remain considerate
You need to be understanding and considerate, without putting any
kind of pressure on your friends in any circumstances. Instead, try to
find ways to help and support your friend that will build trust between
both of you.
4. Spend time to communicate
To develop trust in friendship, you need to communicate and make time
for each other. You need to do things together, but also give the
required space to each other at times.
5. Listen with patience
You need to listen to your friend when they need someone to talk to,
without suggesting your opinion or giving your advice when it is not
asked for. You cannot trust someone who always gives unsolicited advice,
and should wait when your opinion is asked.
6. Encourage Don't De-courage
When your friend is down; take care to encourage them by showing
compassion, concern, and your loyalty. Let them know that you are always
there whenever they need you. Affirm your friends of their strengths
and help them get over their weaknesses.
7. Offer help
Always volunteer to help when your friend is in need, even if they
don’t ask you. Sometimes, friends feel embarrassed to seek help thinking
that they might disturb your work or privacy, or don’t want to bother
you with their own personal concern. But as a true friend, you need to
offer your help and develop trust in friendship.
8. Sharing things
Always share everything with your friend without any kind of
reservations. Plan to have a get together, have fun and share your
blessings. Let your friends know that they are always important to you
and they will also develop trust in friendship and share things back
with you.
The beauty of developing trust in friendship is that friends can
provide you a non judgmental fresh perspective, look at the situation in
your life from a place where they know you, and care and love you for
who you are.
Trust begets trust and if you build your trust to somebody, they will
give back the trust on you. While developing trust in friendship, let
them know that you are allowing them into that special place on your
heart.